8 Reasons Guys Act Distant When They Like You (And What To Do) (2023)

Her husband is distant. He withdraws. withdraw yourself.

You have no idea why. after all,You thought he was interested.

In fact, you are sure of ithe really sincerely likes you. So what the hell is going on?

Why ishe acts distant?

I hope to be able to answer that for you in this article.

Look, I'm a man and I'm not afraid to admit itI've been aloof in the pastof women I really liked.

There were various (albeit complicated) reasons for this, but some of them are not so obvious.

Before we begin, it's also important to remember that this doesn't always happen early in a relationship or during the "courting" phase.

Some guys even act distant when they're in a committed relationship (yes, I've seen that a lot).

So let's dive deep into why your man might be acting aloof.

1. He is afraid of his feelings

This is probably the main reason why men act aloof from a woman they like. They areafraid of their feelings.

The feeling of love is a strong emotion. We can all confirm that. And when a man suddenly feels something so powerful, he feels insecure and doesn't know how to process it properly.

I was there. It's not easy to learn.

You think love is nothing but a positive emotion, and in most cases it certainly is.

But what if you were already in control of your life?

You had plans for what your goals in life are and how you will achieve them.

And then suddenly you're not sure anymore because you feel a strong emotion that threatens to change the trajectory of your life.

Those nights out with the boys? The business you wanted to start? The trip you wanted to take?.

Everything becomes secondary when you fall in love. Eventually, love becomes your priority.

So that's exactly why he might be feeling anxious. Maybe he wants to ignore the feelings of love hoping it will pass.

And look, he might find the idea of ​​a relationship with you very appealing, but the emotions that come with it are hard for him to understand.

It may take him longer to process these emotions than you might expect. Women are generally much more in touch with their emotions than men.

So he might take his time, and he probably won't tell you either. He will be easyact alooffor a period of time until he is able to understand them.

2. He's afraid of commitment

Some men struggle with the idea oflose their freedom.

Perhaps they are young and would like to try the water before deciding to settle down.

Perhaps they find the "advertising phase" exciting, but the "stable relationship phase" boring.

So when it gets past the initial attraction phase, they start acting aloof.

Some men don't have serious long-term relationships until they're well into their 30s. It's actually more common than you might think.

What does that mean for you?

The more time he spends with you, the more he'll understand that his freedom isn't actually being compromised.

But it's up to you to make him realize that.

A counterintuitive way to do this is to make him feel like someone you really trust and respect.

When a man feels this way, not only does it feel like he has the freedom to do what he wants to do, but it also triggers something deep inside him.

There's actually an intriguing new concept in relationship psychology called the heroic instinct.

The theory goes that men want to be your hero. That they want to step up and care for the woman in their life and protect her.

This is deeply rooted in male biology.

The kicker is that when a man doesn't feel like your everyday hero, he acts distant.

I know that might sound a bit silly. Nowadays women don't need anyone to save them. They don't need a "hero" in their life.

And I couldn't agree more.

But here's the ironic truth. Men still have to be heroes. Because it's built into our DNA to seek relationships that allow us to feel like a protector.

If you want to learn more about the Hero Instinct, read on herefree online videoby the relationship psychologist who coined the term. He gives a fascinating insight into this new concept.

Here is another link to the excellent video.

3. He has been injured in the past

If your man has a history of being hurt by previous relationships, he may be scared of falling in love with you.

Maybe an ex abused or cheated on him and he can't get that horrible experience out of his mind. Because of me.

So he might be wary, and of course he's scared of getting too close to anyone again.

So if you triggered deep feelings in him, this may have causedthat he starts to act distant to you.

seem distantis a type of defense mechanism designed to protect itself.

No panic. If this is the case with your man, then all you have to do is work on building trust and making him comfortable.

As he gets to know you better, he will realize that he really likes you the way you are and that you will not hurt him.

Just keep this mind:

When you date a guy who has been hurt by a crazy bitch in the past, it's about making him feel safe and secure in the relationship.

When he realizes that he can trust you, falling in love with someone who could potentially hurt him will ease his worries.

4. He doesn't think you like him too

can you come over a bitice queen? You know, the kind of girl who, despite her best intentions, can't shake that good ol' dormant bitch face?

If you think that might be the case, then I can guarantee you that he might be scared of falling in love with you.
Boys are actually easily intimidated by an attractive woman.

And the last thing they want is to be rejected (it's terrible for their ego).

You might not think you're acting a little cold towards him, but you'd be surprised.

Sometimes we can seem colder than we expect.

And you may think that it's up to him to "woo" you, so it shouldn't matter how you act.

But you have to give him some kind of signal. Smile at him, give him eye contact. And if you've been dating for a while, ask him out every once in a while.

Even in permanent relationships, nobody wants to be the partner who falls in love much more.

Having stronger feelings in a relationship can lead to neediness, despair, and hurt.

Nobody wants to be in this position.

If you're thinking that maybe he's scared of falling for you because you're acting a little cold, then that's really great news.

Why? Because all you have to do is show him your interest and he will realize that his feelings are reciprocated.

There are many different ways to show him you care, from a smile and a wink to going out with him.

Once he knows you're into him, he'll stop acting distant and show you how he feels.

5. What would a relationship coach say?

While this article explores the most common reasons men act distant when they like you, it can be helpful to talk to a relationship coach about your situation.

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6. It might be going too fast for him

Some relationships can change damn fast.

Before you know it, you are planning your future together and counting how many children you will have.

It may not be you, but if he feels like he's going too fast, then he may feel implied by that pace.

Relationships are big commitments, and while he may be sure he really likes you, he may feel better about slowing things down.

If the relationship goes too fast for him,he will start to act aloofas a technique to slow things down.

Nothing wrong with that. In fact, the strongest relationships take time to grow into a rock-solid bond.

So if you think he's acting distant because things are going so fast, take a moment to let him know that you're okay with slowing down.

7. He's not in love with you

Why do men fall in love with certain women but remain distant towards others?

Well, according to the science journal Archives of Sexual Behavior, men don't act "logically" when it comes to relationships.

Ifdating and relationshipCoach Clayton Max says:"It's not about ticking all the boxes on a man's list of what makes his 'perfect girl.' A woman cannot "convince" a man to want to be with her".

The truth is, trying to convince a man or show him how amazing you are always backfires. Because you're sending him the opposite signals of what he needs to commit to you.

Instead, men choose women they are in love with. These women evoke a sense of excitement and a desire to hunt them down.

Want some simple tips to be that woman?

Then check out Clayton Max'squick video herewhere he shows you how to make a man fall in love with you (it's easier than you probably think).

Falling in love is triggered by a primal urge deep in the male brain. And while it sounds crazy, there's a combination of words you can say that will evoke feelings of red-hot passion for you.

To know exactly what these phrases are,Watch Clayton's excellent video now.

8. He needs some time to spend with the boys

If he's like other guys, then he probably spent countless hours with the guys before he met you.

Maybe they would drink beer and watch football together. Or they would go out on a Saturday night and try to pick up girls.

But now that he's spending most of his time with you, he's losing that sense of masculinity he's so used to.

Maybe he's become more vulnerable around you and all those feelings that he's not comfortable with are bubbling up.

So now he's making an effort to recharge his manhood. And part of that includes retreating into his man cave and acting more distant around you.

Don't let that get you down. After recharging his man batteries, he'll probably come around and stop acting so damn distant.

9. He has other things to focus on in life

What stage of life is your friend in?

When a guy is in his late 20s, he's (probably) trying very hard to establish himself in his career.

He's starting to make money, and he knows that if he wants to be successful, he has to focus.

Maybe he's ambitious and his boss is asking him to work late and work overtime. Or maybe he has other problems in his life.

After all, life is complex. We all have battles and struggles to overcome.

He might act aloof andleads you furtherbecause those burdens and priorities take up his focus.

If you're just in the early stages of your relationship, it might be difficult for him to be fully open with you.

Maybe he's scared of how you're going to react, so you keep yourself in the dark.

10. He suddenly realized he wasn't that into you

If you've only recently started dating (which means it's early in the relationship), then it could be just thathe doesn't care about you.

That's probably brutal to hear, but many aren't good at communicating their feelings, so sometimes they don't tell the girl that's the case.

Maybe he doesn't want to offend you either. So he acts aloof and hopes that at some point you'll come to the conclusion that he's not that into you.

If you fell in love with this guy then it definitely sucks but do you really want to be with a guy who isn't open and honest anyway?

You would never understand what he feels and thinks. A better view is that you may have dodged a bullet.

What to do if a man is acting distant?

Maybe you feel terrible that he's acting distant.

Maybe you thought you were up to something special, or maybe you fell deeply in love with him.

But here's what you need to know:

Just because he's acting distant doesn't mean he doesn't want a relationship with you.

As we mentioned above, there are many reasons he might be acting distant, and just one of them is that he doesn't like you. All other reasons are easy to work through.

After all, he only processes his own thoughts and feelings.

So how should you approach this challenge?

1. Communicate with him (this way)

Space? Absolutely. Silence? Not as much.

In fact, giving it space doesn't mean not seeing it.

It means understanding his need to spend time apart, but it doesn't mean you should say no if he wants to hook up with you.

Should you text him online? Definitive. Just don't act needy anddon't pressure himmove forward quickly with your relationship.

Be relaxed and talk to him like he's your buddy.

If he's acting aloof, he might not be as open with his answers as you'd like, but that's okay. No panic. Remember that you are giving him space to process his feelings.

2. Give him space

That might be hard to hear...but you gotta give the guy some space.

None of the reasons he's acting distant are resolved by desperately trying to draw him in and spend more time with him.

He acts aloof because it feels right to him.

If you give space and time to figure things out, most likely he will come around at some point.

As we mentioned above, guys take longer to process their emotions. So give him that time.

3. Don't be angry with him

If you're frustrated because he's acting distant, try not to let that frustration show.

It's easy to blame others when things don't go your way, but it won't do you any good in moving your relationship forward.

Getting emotional will actually have the opposite effect of pushing him further away.

Instead of this. try to show compassion. Imagine you are experiencing strong emotions that are completely foreign to you and you don't know how to process them.

Let him know that it's okay if he takes the time to process his feelings.

He most likely isconfused by his feelings, or fears rejection, or finds it difficult to transition from one lifestyle to another, so try to deal with them positively. Be friendly.

If you take it easy and give him space, he'll get by quickly enough.

Don't back down and follow his lead (it will only make things worse).

Keep in touch (keep it cool) and let him know you're always there for him. If he can trust you and feel comfortable around you, he might open up to you in ways you can't even imagine.

4. Don't introduce him to your family or friends just yet

If he's acting aloof, it could be because things are moving very quickly.

If you've only recently met him, don't put even more pressure on him by introducing him to your family.

The whole Meet the Parents scenario is a big deal. It strengthens the relationship.

You might be up for it, but he might not be.


Boys generally process their emotions more slowly than women. So take your time. Eventually he will want to meet your family. Give him space first.

5. Show him support for his other passions

We talked about men being afraid of losing their independence.

Well, show him that's not going to happen when he's with you. Support his other passions in life.

If he's career-oriented, ask him how his work is going and cheer him on from the sidelines.

Maybe he's a marathon runner. Ask questions about it and be amazed when he achieves something small.

Does he like to travel? Embrace his adventurous instincts.

Take the time to ask him about his passions and what he plans to do with you.

Try to understand him and respect what interests him. The more he sees that you support all areas of his life, the less afraid he will be of losing his independence.

6. Keep yourself busy

Also, make sure you focus on your own individual passions in life.

You don't want to appear like a girl who only cares about her man in life and nothing else. This will upset him.

Instead, make sure you have a life outside of your husband. It will also make your life more interesting. If he asks what you're up to, you'll have something interesting to share.

How to get your relationship on track...

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It's based on the idea that all men have a biological drive to earn your respect. No, he doesn't want to fly into a room with his cloak to fight the bad guys. He just wants to play a starring role in your life and be there for you.

Once you trigger this instinct in a guy, you don't have to worry about him being distant.

He won't be able to stay away.

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What do you do when a guy suddenly becomes distant? ›

Give him space

He is acting distant because that's what feels right to him. If you give space and time to figure out things out, then eventually he'll more than likely come around. As we mentioned above, guys take longer to process their emotions. So give him that time.

Do guys disappear when they like you? ›

There are several answers to why do guys disappear when they like you. It could be that he is scared of letting someone in, unsure of his feelings towards you, or doesn't think you are good enough for him. If you are in such a situation, you must prioritize yourself above everything else.

Why do guys pursue and then back off? ›

In fact, one of the top reasons guys act interested but then disappear is that they think you're not compatible. This doesn't mean anything is wrong with you (or with them). It just means that for some reason, right or wrong, they have decided you're not a good fit.

Why men Act interested then pull away? ›

Why do guys act interested then pull away? The biggest reason for men to pull away is the fear of their own emotions. The thought of a relationship is appealing to them but the effort scares them.

How do you be distant and make him miss you? ›

How to Make Your Long Distance Boyfriend Miss You
  1. 1 Send him a surprise care package.
  2. 2 Text him things that remind you of him.
  3. 3 Be positive and upbeat when you two chat.
  4. 4 Support him from afar.
  5. 5 Flirt with him over text.
  6. 6 Send him a spicy selfie.
  7. 7 Try sexting or having phone sex.
  8. 8 Let him text or call you first.

Why does he act like he likes me then ignores me? ›

What Does It Mean If A Guy Ignores You? If a guy truly starts to ignore you, it's usually either because he is upset with you and needs you to give him space, he is losing interest, he feels like the relationship is moving too fast, he is playing games with you or trying to lead you on.

What to do when he doesn't seem interested? ›

Here are nine things you can consider trying if you're starting to feel like your partner is no longer attracted to you.
  1. Focus on your own self-worth. ...
  2. Remind your partner why they were attracted to you from the start. ...
  3. Make an effort to understand your partner's needs. ...
  4. Communicate what you're feeling.
Nov 21, 2018

Why do men act hot and cold? ›

He's acting out his insecurity. When a guy runs hot and cold on you, it's highly likely that he's insecure. He is blowing hot when he's feeling strong emotions about you. After the first few months of dating, he begins to panic.

What to do when he suddenly goes cold? ›

10 ways to respond when a guy suddenly goes cold on you
  1. 1) Be patient. ...
  2. 2) Don't take it personally. ...
  3. 3) Don't judge. ...
  4. 4) Let go of his actions and look at them from his point of view. ...
  5. 5) Don't go after him until you know where he stands. ...
  6. 6) Remember that this is his loss — not yours. ...

What happens when you stop chasing him? ›

You get to find out his true feelings for you

Stop chasing a guy, and his reaction will let you know if he cares for you. This will save you a lot of time guessing the nature of his feelings. Getting to know his true feelings is one of the benefits of halting your chase.

How do you act when he pulls away and comes back? ›

Letting him know that you understand his reasons for pulling away can make him feel more comfortable about reconnecting to you. Empathize with his struggles, but also be brief and to the point—you don't have to dismiss your own feelings of hurt. Say something like: “I totally get it—life happens.

How to be high value when he pulls away? ›

How To Stay High Value When A Man Pulls Away
  1. Give Him Space. This first step sounds so simple but it's so hard to actually follow through on. ...
  2. Don't Stress Over It. I can't say this enough, the constant stressing ruins everything. ...
  3. Relinquish Control. ...
  4. Pursue Your Own Happiness. ...
  5. Move On.

What makes a man pull away from a woman? ›

One of the reasons why men pull away is because they don't feel an intense emotional connection. A guy might like you for a while and start to keep his distance when he discovers that the emotional connection between the two of you isn't deep.

Why is he distant when he likes me? ›

He may think he is not in your league, you are with someone, want to keep his options open, and want you to approach him are the common reasons for acting distant. Men who do not want a serious relationship or are already committed can act distinctly to women they like.

Do guys distance themselves when they like a girl? ›

Do guys distance themselves when they like a girl or guy? Yes, if they are not convinced the person loves them as much as they love that person. Some men might like you but don't want to look desperate. They believe you might want to take them for granted.

What makes a man crave you? ›

Just like every woman loves to be desired, men too love the feeling of being wanted or appreciated. Make sure your compliment your man more often than not. Do not restrict your compliments to just his looks. Tell him how you appreciate him doing things for you or how you liked the way he dealt with a certain situation.

How do I make him feel the spark again? ›

Once the communication is back on track, try these seven tips to reignite the spark:
  1. Boost your dopamine —together. ...
  2. Kiss more often. ...
  3. Remember what it was like when you first met. ...
  4. Make a list of sexual possibilities. ...
  5. Keep the mystery alive. ...
  6. Get in touch with your own sexuality. ...
  7. Seek out a sex coach.
Aug 12, 2016

How do you make him regret ignoring you? ›

15 tips to make him regret ignoring you
  1. Express your feelings (to him) One of the most direct ways to learn how to make him regret ignoring you is by being upfront about it. ...
  2. Get your story straight. ...
  3. Be less available. ...
  4. Spend time with friends (especially mutual friends) ...
  5. Block him. ...
  6. Pursue other options. ...
  7. Conclusion.
Mar 21, 2022

Why would a guy avoid a girl he likes? ›

It's possible for guys to try to ignore his romantic or sexual feelings if he's shy, uncomfortable, unsure about them, can't handle his emotions, or he thinks things are moving too fast; however, it's more common for guys to try to pursue these feelings instead of avoiding them.

Can someone ignore you and still like you? ›

Yes, it absolutely can. But it usually depends on how much he is ignoring you. There's a chance that he doesn't want to be too obvious about how he feels, but has misjudged it and now it just looks like he's ignoring you.

Can a guy like you and not contact you? ›

However, a guy could hold himself back from texting you even when he likes you because he may want to play it cool; he could be shy or because of another factor. So, please don't assume that a guy's lack of communication is related to his negative impression of you or your relationship with him.

What are the signs that a man doesn't want you? ›

Signs He Doesn't Want A Relationship With You
  • He Calls You Only When He Needs Something. Call me when you want, call me when you need. ...
  • He's Hot And Cold With You. Save. ...
  • When You Meet It's Only For Sex. Save. ...
  • He Has No Open Body Language. ...
  • He's Always Busy. ...
  • He's Emotionally Unavailable. ...
  • He Refuses To Be Exclusive. ...
  • He Cheats On You.
Dec 12, 2022

How do you tell if he's lost interest in you? ›

5 signs that he is losing interest or are you overthinking it?
  1. Phone calls and texts have steadily decreased. ...
  2. Quality time together has started to dwindle. ...
  3. Intimacy has become scarce. ...
  4. Things are becoming increasingly one-sided. ...
  5. He dodges questions about your status or where it is going.

What makes a high value woman? ›

A high-value woman knows her real value. She is aware she is highly desirable, and so has high standards others need to meet to have an intimate relationship with her. One of the most important traits of a high valued, highly desirable woman is her self-confidence and deep sense of self-worth and self-esteem.

How do you respond to mixed signals? ›

15 Ways to Deal with Mixed Signals
  1. Don't jump to conclusions or assume anything. ...
  2. Take off your blinders. ...
  3. Don't take it personally. ...
  4. Back off. ...
  5. Believe what you're told (until convinced you shouldn't). ...
  6. Realize the other person may have issues going on. ...
  7. Don't be demanding. ...
  8. Recognize the emotional tug-of-war that can happen.
Oct 24, 2014

How do guys text when they like you? ›

In conclusion, if he likes you, he will text you. How guys text you when they like you varies, but some are consistent. For example, a guy will ask many questions about you, text first, compliment you, send emojis, make you laugh, find reasons to talk to you, and give hints for a date.

What to do with mixed signals from a guy? ›

13 Ways To Respond To Mixed Signals (Instead Of Going Totally Crazy)
  • Take a step back. ...
  • Turn your anxiety into productivity. ...
  • Don't cancel that second date with What's His Face. ...
  • Don't pout, or act needy. ...
  • Make him remember how much fun you've been having together. ...
  • Send yourself flowers.

How do you tell if he's distancing himself? ›

11 Ways to Tell If Your Partner Is Pulling Away
  • They Text Back Less And Less. ...
  • They Are Being Way More Secretive. ...
  • They Suddenly Seem Disconnected. ...
  • They Have A New Group Of Friends. ...
  • They No Longer Make Any Big Plans. ...
  • They No Longer Ask About Your Day. ...
  • They're Neglecting You In Bed. ...
  • They're With You, But Not With You.
Nov 3, 2016

Why you shouldn't chase a man? ›

It affects your self-esteem

When you're chasing a man who doesn't reciprocate your feelings, it could end up backfiring and your self-esteem will take a hit. Not sealing the deal will make you lose confidence in yourself and your life decisions – “why can't I do anything right?”, you might ask yourself.

Will he like me if I ignore him? ›

Ignoring a guy is one of the smartest and savviest tricks to get them to chase you. It makes them want you more and is a surefire way to get him right where you want him. If your curiosity is piqued, and you want to find out more on how to go about it, you're in the right place.

Should you let men chase? ›

Don't: Chase after him

You should be the one being chased, not the one chasing him around. Let him pursue you! By letting him know you won't come running, you're giving him space to figure out what he wants from you.

How long is the pull back phase? ›

Three months is probably the most frequent time that I see people breaking up, deciding they don't want to step it up to a more serious stage, which does include agreeing to be in a committed relationship, saying “I love you,” and more of a groove.

What are signs of a high value man? ›

15 Sure Signs You're Dating A High Value Man
  • He cares about seeing you play at your best. ...
  • He isn't afraid of you over-taking him. ...
  • He wants to provide for you. ...
  • He's turned on by your independence. ...
  • He's responsive to your needs, even if he doesn't always get them right first time.
Sep 9, 2015

How do you pull away to make him want you more? ›

Here's how.
  1. 1) Don't be afraid to pull away. It sounds pretty elementary but being brave is the first step! ...
  2. 2) Ghost him. Cold turkey! ...
  3. 3) Get advice specific to your situation. ...
  4. 4) Make him feel rejected. ...
  5. 5) Let him question your feelings for him. ...
  6. 6) Exploit his vulnerabilities. ...
  7. 7) Live your best life! ...
  8. 8) Look your best.
Feb 4, 2022

How do you stop a man from pulling away? ›

What to do when he pulls away? How to react and deal with the issues
  1. Resist the temptation to ask him what went wrong. ...
  2. Keep your emotions in check and your interactions positive. ...
  3. Be patient. ...
  4. Ask him what his insecurities are. ...
  5. Focus on yourself. ...
  6. Don't respond with fear or become paranoid. ...
  7. Be ready to face the outcome.
May 26, 2021

Why do guys send mixed signals? ›

Mixed signals can simply be a miscommunication—or they can be an excuse to hold you at arm's length because they don't want to commit (or make you believe that they are ready to). “Usually, it's used to create distance,” Feuerman says. “It's a way to say, 'I'm not totally sure I am into your or not.

What do guys do when they like you? ›

22 Subtle Signs A Guy Likes You, From Dating Experts
  • He leans toward you during conversation. ...
  • He angles his body toward you in the room. ...
  • He finds small ways to compliment you. ...
  • He makes eye contact. ...
  • He steals a glance at you. ...
  • He singles you out in a group. ...
  • He seems drawn to you in the room.
Nov 26, 2021

How do you know if a guy likes you but is scared? ›

15 Signs A Guy Is Scared Of His Feelings For You
  • His behavior changes for no apparent reason. ...
  • You catch him staring at you. ...
  • You keep running into each other. ...
  • He acts differently when you're around. ...
  • He wants to be your hero. ...
  • He often jokes that he wants to date you. ...
  • He's nervous when you're around.
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Why do guys seem interested then back off? ›

He may have detected that you're interested in more than just hooking up, and he's trying to back away slowly. His sudden lack of interest could signal he wants to end things, or that he wants to keep you at a distance. Either way, if he's not interested in more than sex, and you are, it's probably not a good match.

Why is he distant after being close? ›

If you are wondering why do guys distance themselves after intimacy, it might be that he is scared of loving. Some men don't want to open up to anyone or feel vulnerable because it makes them less male. Therefore, when a man sees signs of a possible loving relationship, he pulls away after intimacy.

Why do men pull away when things start to get serious? ›

Conclusion. Men pull away due to multiple reasons ranging from fears, insecurities, or anxieties to desperation or loss of love. It is crucial for you to figure out the reason behind his pulling away to protect your relationship. And probably the best way to deal with it is to give him space.

Why would a guy suddenly distance himself? ›

Guys mainly act distant when they are uncertain of their feelings or yours. Please don't give up when you notice a sudden change in his demeanor. Instead, make him trust you more by assuring him of your love. Let him know you value the relationship and hope you build it together.

Why is he dry texting me all of a sudden? ›

He might be busy, he might not like texting, or he might not be into you. Dry texting is incredibly frustrating, but try to be patient for the first couple of short texts or long response times. If he starts the conversation up again or starts sending more detailed messages, he was probably just busy.

Why do guys act hot and cold? ›

He's acting out his insecurity. When a guy runs hot and cold on you, it's highly likely that he's insecure. He is blowing hot when he's feeling strong emotions about you. After the first few months of dating, he begins to panic.

Why is he distant when he loves me? ›

He may think he is not in your league, you are with someone, want to keep his options open, and want you to approach him are the common reasons for acting distant. Men who do not want a serious relationship or are already committed can act distinctly to women they like.

What to text if a guy is not replying? ›

If he is not responding to your text, simply say that you are sorry if you said something wrong and then ask if he is ready to talk or to ping you once he is. This dialogue comes into play if you have done something wrong or you know what you last said or wrote may have hurt his feelings.

What does it mean when a guy slows down texting you? ›

If your dude has slowed down his responses to your texts or if he's not returning your calls, there's a good chance that he's being a wuss and slowly making an exit. "The guy may start to communicate less, so no more good morning text messages, shortened responses and fewer details about his life," explains Ritter.

What dry texting looks like? ›

Dry texting is what happens when someone gives you short, non-engaging replies in a texting conversation. It can also be super repetitive and just plain boring, says Claudia Cox, a relationship coach and founder of Text Weapon.


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